Have you ever asked yourself the question ‘What is blocking my progress?’

Have you ever wondered why you are not progressing along life’s road in the way that you have always want?

Each and every time I am ask myself or someone asks me this question I never really come up with a singular answer as I have never really looked deep enough into it.  I have also found that usually each individual reacts differently to every given situation i.e. some individual’s progress are blocked by a particular event, whereas the same event for another different person doesn’t cause any such blockage!

Why is this?

The answer: Self-Image

Ask yourself these questions:

  1. What is the image that you portray to the world?
  2. Who do you tell yourself you are?
  3. Is your progress blocked by your answer to question 1, 2 or both?
  4. Would you say you suffer from 1 or more of the following character traits?


  • Insecurity: insecure people aren’t willing to take risks.  They complain about their lot in life, yet they are afraid to embrace change and do something about it.  They prefer to remain comfortable.
  • Moodiness:  moody people are like the wind – you don’t know which way they’ll blow.  You can’t depend on them.  Confidence is never built on a person who is fickle.
  • Perfectionism:  perfectionism is the obsessive need to perform flawlessly.  It stifles your creativity, and turns others off.  Perfectionism can’t affirm themselves, therefore it’s difficult for them to affirm anybody else.
  • Over-sensitivity:  over-sensitive people are always licking their wounds and looking inward; as a result, they’re unaware of the needs of others.  Ironically, they never understand why they are so lonely.
  • Negativity: negative people are hard to be around.  Their personality says no to life in general, and people tend to avoid them like the plague.
  • Inconsistence: people who are inconsistent, do not stick to anything or do it regularly enough to get their desired result.  They tend to give up part way through, if not before and wonder nothing works out for them.


Now, I am sure if you have disguised the fact that you identify with one or more of these character traits, you are now shouting at your PC/laptop “What about FEAR!!   That’s the only thing blocking my progress!”


Well I agree fear plays a big part in it, especially if you are:

    • Insecure – you will be fearful of taking risks, afraid of change and afraid to stay where you currently are, fearful to even look where you are
    • Moody – you will be afraid your mood will not lift to do, to attract etc
    • Perfectionist – you will fear you will never get it right or be perfect enough for other to see, use or present to others.

You can see where I am going with this………………………………………

FEAR is not the thing that BLOCKING YOUR PROGRESS!

It’s YOU, what You think about Yourself!  what You believe about Yourself! how You see Yourself!

As for FEAR this is a blog on its own!!!

Let me share with you my experience of how Self- Image is very important in moving you towards your goals and successes.  Below is my light bulb moment on what I was thinking and believing about myself:

When I first started life coaching and wanting to progress into self-employment, I thought I was doing everything I needed to do to build up my client database and business.  I coached part-time and worked part-time initially with a view of gradually dropping the part-time work.  The only problem was all I did to move more in the direction of self-employment, the more stumbling blocks that seem to come my way.  I knew I was a good coach but just couldn’t understand why the business wasn’t progressing.

Then I read Jamie Smart’s e-book “Ten of the Coolest, Most Powerful & Useful NLP Techniques I’ve Ever Learned, Technique #2 –Take People Literally – in a nutshell the technique #2 described a guy who wanted to lose some weight.  He had been sticking to a Spartan diet for months, had exercised regularly but just didn’t seem to be able to shift the weight.  He said, ”deep down, I don’t really believe I’ll be able to do it.” This guy attended a mastermind group that Jamie was a member of.  After noting the way the guy was using language to discribe his situation, Jamie asked him “Why is it like that?”  Jamie did this because he could see that the guy was giving a literal description of the mental images he had of the situation, ie not really believing he could lose weight or see himself anything other than the size he was.

After reading this article, I realised what my problem was, it was how I was literally describing myself as everything but being self-employed/business woman.  I would be saying to friends and family members things like, “I cannot leave work until I get such and such a income or clients on my books, that I was a good coach but didn’t have all the knowledge necessary to run my own business, who would see me as credible as a business woman and people like me didn’t run business of their own”.  I was like the guy who couldn’t shift the weight even though I was doing all the right things, just because we didn’t see it in ourselves literally how we wanted to be!  What a  moment, bling bling!!!

What a tremendous realisation and by understanding this concept I was able to remove the blocks on my progress………….so as we can see, our self image is very important.

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You may be asking’ “What steps can I take to remove the blocks on my progress?”

1.  Start seeing yourself the way you want to be and literally describe yourself that way

2.  Replace those defective character traits with good ones like:

    • Persistence:  the persistent person, always pushes forward keeping focused on their dreams and goals, no matter what obstacles appear, they always look for a way over it, around it, under it or through it.
    • Consistent: the person who practices consistency, will succeed through the application of small baby steps each day without fail towards their dreams.
    • Hope: the person who has hope takes a positive view of the future and see good will in all situations and circumstances.
    • Prudence: the prudent person uses good judgement to progress ahead through their challenges to achieve their dreams.
    • Patience: a person with patience stays focused in difficult situation without complaint.  They make the most of all situations and events that arise always knowing time will change things for the better.


I believe that if you have a positive and healthy self-image, you will speak to yourself with love and care then act accordingly toward the progress you want without any blocks.

REMEMBER:  What you think, is what you say, is what you do!


I hope that I have given you food for thought!

If you would like to contact me please drop me an email at info@besomeboddie.com


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