There are many articles around which talk about changing our beliefs, our focus and lots more. These are all fantastic and the advice, if used can help you to move forward. However, something that I realised, whilst travelling this journey of change, was that although I wanted to change my beliefs and focus, there were often times when I wasn’t always aware of what I was believing or even focused on. This was when I became very interested in awareness. Why I wasn’t always aware of what I was thinking.
Self-love can easily be defined as the love that you give and have for yourself. However, in today’s society self-love has little or no look in, in most people’s lives.
Self-love is the hardest type of love to get to grips with, although when you do, the rewards of having a healthy love for yourself proves to be priceless. You see to love yourself, you first have to like yourself, and most of us cannot truly say we like ourselves, let alone love.
Does the above sound familiar? Doubting what you just saw, going from positive confidence to negative doubt.
Many of us do this so often, that we don’t even realise that we have been doubting ourselves, and the worse part of that is through our self-doubt we limit our lives each and every time.
William Shakespeare said, “Our doubts are traitors, and make us lose the good we oft might win, by fearing to attempt”.
Have you ever got up and realised that your focus has been primarily in the past?
Thinking about what you did yesterday, what you left unfinished from last week, how you were treated in the past and how your life use to be.
The practice of gratitude as a tool for happiness has been in the mainstream for years. Long-term studies support gratitude’s effectiveness, suggesting that a positive, appreciative attitude contributes to greater success in work, greater health, peak performance in sports and business, a higher sense of well-being, and a faster rate of recovery from surgery.
But while we may acknowledge gratitude’s many benefits, it still can be difficult to sustain. So many of us are trained to notice what is broken, undone or lacking in our lives. For gratitude to meet its full healing potential in our lives, it needs to become more than just a Thanksgiving word. We have to learn a new way of looking at things, a new habit. And that can take some time.
Today I woke up and realised that I was not as grateful as I thought I was!
It’s easy being grateful and having gratitude for the things we want in our life, when they appear, but what about the things that turn up that we do not ask for, although they are still positive but do not look like the things we requested.
The reason for my realisation, was that all my life I had wanted to have a loving family. A family that accepted me for who I am and loved me for no other reason than being me. I dreamed of that loving family being my family, and for years and years, I would do anything for them to accept me, love me and want me around. Don’t get me wrong, I would have this from my family in spurts but nothing regular, realising that these spurts only happened when they wanted something from me.
Where is your focus? And what have you been focusing on?
Over the last couple of months, I have written articles about decision making and having a balanced life and the one ingredient that each of these subjects have in common is focus.
So why is focus an ingredient in decision making and having that balanced life.
You see life naturally has highs, lows, twists and turns, with some of the highs more extreme than others and the same with the twists, turns and lows. So the thing that we need to consider about having balance in our lives is whether we are talking about a balance of things, physical things, or having balance from within ourselves to cope with the things we have going on in our lives and these highs, and lows that naturally come along for the ride.
Have you been making decisions that move you towards what you really want?
Or have you been making decisions that automatically take you way off course of your desired results?
There was a time in my life that I tried to avoid making any decisions at all, and I know some of you out there have also tried not to make decisions. However, no matter how we try to avoid and resist making those important decisions, the truth is, at some point in all our lives we will have to make a decision, with some decisions being more important than others.