Today I woke up and realised that I was not as grateful as I thought I was!

It’s easy being grateful and having gratitude for the things we want in our life, when they appear, but what about the things that turn up that we do not ask for, although they are still positive but do not look like the things we requested.

The reason for my realisation, was that all my life I had wanted to have a loving family.  A family that accepted me for who I am and loved me for no other reason than being me.  I dreamed of that loving family being my family, and for years and years, I would do anything for them to accept me, love me and want me around.  Don’t get me wrong, I would have this from my family in spurts but nothing regular, realising that these spurts only happened when they wanted something from me.

What I neglected to realise was I did have the loving family I always wanted, however they were not my family, they belonged to my partner.  The thing is they accepted me with open arms from day one, accepting me as I am, loving me and including me in all they are doing, as though I was part of their family.

I had my loving family, however because I was focused on my criteria of having my family being the loving family, I failed to see I had been blessed all along with what I had wanted, the only thing was it came through a different source.

It was only when I went to a family event of my partners that the reality hit me.  They greeted me with hugs, smiles and laughter, ushering me along to join in the family photos.  This got me reflecting on all the times over the many years that my partners family had been like this with me, it was then I realised that I did have what I wanted but not recognised it because my criteria was not fully matched.

Life has a funny way of giving us what we want but not in the way we want it, so the only way to really recognise these gifts of what we have, is to be grateful for everything we have in life and not focus on what we don’t have.

I believe the more grateful you are for what you have, no matter how small it may be, you are giving it a chance to grow.

So my question to you is:

Where in your life have you not been grateful for something or someone because it did not shown up exactly as you expected it?

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